Repairing Trust When its Broken

How do you repair trust when your spouse has cheated? Or your best friend lied right to your face. What about when a family member has done you wrong. When trust is broken it has no barren as to what kind of relationship it has affected, only the fact that it happened. The security blanket so to speak has been pulled and the innocent person has fallen. Gone to a certain degree are love and respect that was once shared. Now the potent question is asked. How do I trust again? The offended person will be on high alert like a police officer walking his or her beat searching for anything out of the ordinary to occur.

So to begin the healing process the acknowledgement of  the wrong must be addressed. In Dr. Phil's words' You Can't Fix What You Don't Acknowledge.'  Discussing the issue and bringing light to what may have caused the circumstance, will steer you in the right direction of resolving the problem. If the broken trust has occurred in a marriage, the spouse who have cheated must be an open book. Cell phones and emails accounts must be easily accessible by the other partner. Reassurance is critical to regain the trust that was lost. It is just as important to forgive. Forgiveness is the key to restoring the broken relationship allowing it to move forward.

And finally, renew your commitment. Having an heart-to-heart conversation about life values, morals, loyalty and expectations will help strengthen the relationship and its foundation. Repairing trust that has been broken won't be easy by far but it's definitely worth the trouble.

Janie De Coster pens stories about relationships. Check out her novels at amazon.com

Janie De Coster most recent novel What My Sister Didn't Know 2 is now available.